Sometimes Self Care is…


Sometimes Self Care is… Letting someone else take care of you.

It can be hard. Depression and anxiety can make you push other people away. Sometimes being looked after makes you feel silly or lazy. But sometimes that’s what you need, it’s what I needed today.

sometimes self care is letting someone else look after you. millys guide to happiness
So after telling you all yesterday about my great week and that I was feeling happy and healthy. Today I woke up feeling physically ill and then mentally ill. I’m not being rude or derogatory that’s how I felt. My brain wasn’t working properly. It was a fog. I couldn’t concentrate on planning meals for the week or writing a shopping list. And then suddenly I panicked. I couldn’t cope with the world. I was sat outside in the sunshine writing a shopping list with my partner. Milly was laying under the table. I was supposed to be chilling, planning what exciting food we would be eating this week and I panicked. I couldn’t cope with it. Couldn’t cope with thinking, with making decisions or even sitting. I was trying to power through. Trying to be a human, be a person. Sometimes I do this thing where I talk in a funny voice, I go hyper and over excited. I think I’m being happy where really I’m just overcompensating for being sad. I went upstairs, laid down on the bed, stuck some headphones in my ears and tried to block everything out. My partner and Milly joined me, bringing me a drink and cuddles. I concentrated on nothing but the music in my ears, holding onto my partner’s arm and stroking Milly.

Today my self care has been to let me partner look after me. He has let me sleep, encouraged me to chill under a blanket, watch a sewing programme, take a little walk and he’s now cooking me dinner. Today he has looked after me and that is exactly what me and my mental health needed.


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  • beetleypete

    It sounds like you have the perfect life partner, Lauren. As they say in America, “He’s a keeper!”
    Not forgetting good old Milly too of course.
    Glad to hear that the love and attention from them both worked well.
    Best wishes, Pete.

  • Lean Not Unto My Own Understanding

    That was my yesterday. I was in a fog and didn’t know why or how to get out. I finally let my partner take care of me too. I let him take the wheel and control, so I could let the chatter and the wheels in my mind relax and even stop long enough to feel relief. Today, I am in my happy place and enjoying it all. It’s a wonderful feeling to know I don’t always have to be in control and it’s ok to just let it all be just ok. Thanks for your honest post, it brings a smile on my heart. <3 <3 <3

    • LaurenEph Post author

      Thanks for commenting. I’m glad you liked my post. I’m trying to be more open – with myself, with my partner and the world, which is why I started the blog really, and being so honest on it. Glad you’re having a better time now.

  • Lulu

    It is hard for me to recognize when things aren’t going well and to remember that ignoring the problem does not make it go away. Like you, I try to “power through.” I tell myself that I don’t need to slow down in order to concentrate on using my skills, I am too busy, and it really isn’t that bad. Good for you for allowing someone else to show you just how much he loves you and cares about you! I am so glad that you were able to stop, to give yourself the time and space you needed, and to allow someone else in! There is a good lesson in that for me, too. Thank you! Hope that you keep feeling better and better until you are happy, healthy, and cheerful again. <3

    • LaurenEph Post author

      Thankyou for your comment, it’s nice to know that it’s not just me who tries to power through and carry on like nothing’s wrong. Hope you’re doing well.